The relationship we have with our mother and father shape who
we become as adults. These two people influence us at our very core.
When our parents are happy with their own lives, we as children,
have the full privilege to develop into normal functioning human
beings. However, when our parents’ lives are off center, we, as
children, divert attention from our own security within the family
unit. As family trust is tarnished, life takes on a feeling of self
preservation instead of the much needed feelings of being young and
carefree.
Our parents’ number one priority is to raise us to
be independent responsible adults. When mom and dad are
irresponsible themselves, it makes the task of raising normal human
beings almost impossible.
Some people are lucky enough to have a relationship with both
of their parents. Some other people are still lucky to have at least one
parent that provides emotional and financial stability in the home. In
extreme cases, some children have to be taken care of by another
family member or even another family altogether.
As children, we don’t have a choice on how our family life is
conducted. Our emotional responses are programmed by the people
who raise us. As we get older, we begin to see that not all of our
parents’ actions and reactions are normal. We no longer have our
parents’ autonomous ways to reference. We begin to compare and
contrast their personalities to that of other families, friends, and even
what we see in the media.
When we mature, our way of processing and filtering
information shifts gradually. We begin to redefine for ourselves what
normal is. We begin to readjust our personalities according to peer
pressure and the generation gap. We align ourselves with new and
positive sources to learn and modify behavior. We change habits that
have been part of our personalities all of our lives.
Every person that comes into our lives leaves an imprint on our
personalities. We fall in love, form friendships, fall out of love, and
grow apart from friendships all in an attempt to grow spiritually and
emotionally.
we become as adults. These two people influence us at our very core.
When our parents are happy with their own lives, we as children,
have the full privilege to develop into normal functioning human
beings. However, when our parents’ lives are off center, we, as
children, divert attention from our own security within the family
unit. As family trust is tarnished, life takes on a feeling of self
preservation instead of the much needed feelings of being young and
carefree.
Our parents’ number one priority is to raise us to
be independent responsible adults. When mom and dad are
irresponsible themselves, it makes the task of raising normal human
beings almost impossible.
Some people are lucky enough to have a relationship with both
of their parents. Some other people are still lucky to have at least one
parent that provides emotional and financial stability in the home. In
extreme cases, some children have to be taken care of by another
family member or even another family altogether.
As children, we don’t have a choice on how our family life is
conducted. Our emotional responses are programmed by the people
who raise us. As we get older, we begin to see that not all of our
parents’ actions and reactions are normal. We no longer have our
parents’ autonomous ways to reference. We begin to compare and
contrast their personalities to that of other families, friends, and even
what we see in the media.
When we mature, our way of processing and filtering
information shifts gradually. We begin to redefine for ourselves what
normal is. We begin to readjust our personalities according to peer
pressure and the generation gap. We align ourselves with new and
positive sources to learn and modify behavior. We change habits that
have been part of our personalities all of our lives.
personalities. We fall in love, form friendships, fall out of love, and
grow apart from friendships all in an attempt to grow spiritually and
emotionally.
good things and the not so good. Therefore, everything
must become a choice.
Swimming between the good choices and not so good choices
like they are made up of the same thing is key. I decide why I have to
work smart; not hard. The reason shifts to your self empowerment
and not because your parents taught you to do so. All of your
choices as an adult are your own. Shifting your thoughts this
way will give your choices back to you here in the present moment
instead of to the inner child and the past. The inner child feels peace
and allows you to act as an adult. This is a big concept. Mastering the
art of “I decide” is a milestone that every adult must surrender to in
order to thrive and reestablish their identity as a positive force in the
Universe. Being a positive force in the Universe because your parents
taught you is not the way. Being a positive force because you choose
to in the present moment will connect you to your higher spirit and
let you lead by example in many new aspects of your life.
Our mothers and fathers are no longer here to
dictate our actions and reactions to daily life. We have the
power of choice daily. Awareness of mimicked behavior is
the magic of breaking free from unwanted habits. Blaming
our parents for our current misfortunes gives our power away as well
as the responsibility. We must own all of our actions in order to
change them…own it so you can change it.
Our forefathers have instilled many gifts in each and every one
of us. Take these gifts and build a life around them. Discard the traits
that do not serve you well. Do whatever it takes because your children
will inherit them as well. The life patterns of many generations
depend on you to live or to be dissolved. You are the present and your
children’s future. The past is just that…the past. Let it go…
Let it ALL go.
